Bend Over Boyfriend

Bend Over Boyfriend is a "wildly successful" series of sex education videos covering the practice of a woman penetrating a man's anus with a strap-on dildo (known as pegging). The first of the two videos, which was released in 1998, became the best selling video to date for Good Vibrations, a sex-toy business. The videos promote the idea, as Eye Weekly puts it, that "fucking your boyfriend in the ass is fun".

The videos star Carol Queen, who discusses pegging and also demonstrates the practice with her husband, a chiropractor with whom she has an open marriage. The videos also contain footage of other couples engaging in the practice. The porn star Chloe appears in the second video; as she is best known as an anal queen, her use of a strap-on dildo is a "role reversal".

Dan Savage, who popularized the term "pegging", originally offered "bob" (short for "Bend over Boyfriend") as one of two alternatives for the term.


Some reviewers, such as in the Eye Weekly, said the tapes are instructional to a fault, saying the presentation "made anal sex seem more distasteful rather than more attractive". Queen herself said she'd been told the first video was "like watching a driving-instruction video" and the subtitle of ''Bend Over Boyfriend 2: Less Talkin', More Rockin''' attempts to address this concern.

Tristan Taormino, writing for the Village Voice, credits the video as an archetype for a substantial cultural shift:

"The roles of active initiator and penetrator are no longer solely the domain of men, nor are the qualities of receptivity and passivity for girls only. Nowhere is this more apparent than in what I identify as the Bend Over Boyfriend Archetype"
Nevertheless, Taormino uses "the porn approach" in her own pegging video, and says that "The problem with the Bend Over Boyfriend series is that there are no good close-ups of the ass.... If you're going to make an anal-sex video, show the ass."

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