Coitus reservatus

Coitus reservatus is an expression made up two Latin words: one is the word coitus meaning "union" and the other is reservatus from reservare meaning "to save"; so literally the expression coitus reservatus means "saved union". Another term used for this kind of relationhips is the word karezza, generally believed to be derived from the Italian word carézza meaning "caress"; however, Alan W. Watts believes it is a Persian word. The term "karezza" was coined by the physician Alice Bunker Stockham and is akin to maithuna in Buddhist Tantra and Sahaja in Hindu Yoga. Importantly, Dr.Stockham's contribution was to apply this same philosophy to women as much as to men.It is commonly thought of as a form of sexual intercourse in which the man does not attempt to ejaculate within his partner, but instead attempts to remain at the plateau phase of intercourse for as long as possible avoiding the orgasm and seminal emission. It may be construed as a form of birth control but it is really a way of prolonging sexual pleasure to the point of achieving mystical ecstasis, as explained by J. William Lloyd, a practitioner of Karezza, whose own experience of Cosmic Consciousness appears in the magnum opus Cosmic Consciousness by the american psychiatrist Richard M. Bucke M. D., an intimate friend of the american poet Walt Whitman. In fact, the goal of this practice is to enable the man to actually separate orgasm from ejaculation, being able to experience one without the other.

Presumably, the principles of karezza also apply to masturbation, whereby a man attempts to delay his ejaculation as long as possible to prolong pleasure in a process known as "edging." However, Karezza to be successful requires the maturity of a heterosexual married couple. This precludes masturbation, prostitution and homosexuality. Its cornerstone is a married heterosexual couple who is willing to undergo the discipline of coitus sine ejaculatio seminis. The primary purpose of karezza is the maintenance, and indeed, intensification of desire and enjoyment of sexual pleasure within the context of long-term relationships. According to Stockham, it takes from two weeks to a month for the body to recover from ejaculation ..."Unless procreation is desired, let the final propagative orgasm be entirely avoided". If ejaculation is experienced more frequently, the effect is to 'drain the basin' before it has been replenished. This, in turn, induces feelings of irritation and rejection of the lover, as the body seeks to prevent further ejaculation. However, and arguably especially in modern Western culture where 'more is better', people often pursue orgasms, and therefore, ejaculation as a way of trying to overcome those feelings, thus compounding the problem. The result is that over time (reportedly within two to four years), the 'honeymoon of desire' is over, leading to substantial change in the nature of the relationship. Stockham's advocacy was that this same 'honeymoon period' could be maintained in perpetuity by limiting the frequency of ejaculation or preferably avoiding it entirely. Stockham writes: "Man, too, expresses creative life in many ways besides that of parenthood". Once lovemaking is no longer undertaken as a means to orgasm, Stockham suggested, the nature and purpose of lovemaking changes dramatically, being focused on communication and physical communion. She writes, "The time and frecuency of Karezza can be governed by no certain law. Experience, however, has proven that is far more satisfactory to have at least an interval of two to four weeks, and may find that even three or four months afford greater impetus to power and growth as well as more personal satisfaction; during the interval the thousand and one lover-like attentions give reciprocal delight, and are an acticipating prophecy of the ultimate union."

Coitus reservatus is not a reliable form of preventing a sexually transmitted infection, as the penis leaks pre-ejaculate, which may contain all of the same infectious viral particles and bacteria as the actual semen. Beyond that, it is also unreliable for contraception, even if ejaculation is successfully avoided, because pre-ejaculate may contain sperm. The method is also unreliable because of the difficulty of controlling ejaculation beyond the point of no return in over-reaching the orgasm. The couples should therefore exercise preventive control in how far they are willing to go. Another difficulty of this method as a form of birth-control is that if the man begins to orgasm (before ejaculation proper begins), the muscles can tense tightly in the lower body, such as legs and buttocks, causing the removal of the penis to be difficult. This could cause some ejaculate to enter his partner. Pregnancy would then result.

Stockham writes in Karezza, p. 22, "Karezza signifies 'to express affection in both words and action,' and while it fittingly denotes the union that is the outcome of deepest human affection, love's consummation, it is used technically throughout this work to designate a controlled sexual union".So that in practice, it is more than just self-control; it is actually mutual-control where the male helps the female and viceversa. This is a key to overcome many difficulties in trying to control sexual expression on an individual basis.

The Rosicrucians

The AMORC Rosicrucians declare openly that they do not engage in sexual practices of an occult nature. This has been so since their First Imperator H. Spencer Lewis, Ph. D. made it public knowledge. Their rival organization Fraternitas Rosae Crucis led by Dr. R. Swinburne Clymer engages in sexual practices for the sake of race regeneration. Dr. Clymer is completely opposed to the practice of Karezza or coitus reservatus and advocates instead a form of sex intercourse in which the heterosexual married couple experiences the orgasm at the same time: come together! Imperator Lewis declares the FUDOSI acknowledged AMORC as the genuine Rosicrucian representative in North America. However, the Secretary of the FUDOSI, a French Sexologist, heartily approves the practice of Karezza as an American import to establish harmony in the family as well as in the world by preventing the waste and misuse of sex energy. No man is a prophet in his native land; this time it would be a woman, Dr. Alice Stockham, to be taken to court and forced to give up teaching the practice of Karezza in the United States of America.

Dr. Arnold Krumm-Heller established the Fraternitas Rosicruciana Antiqua (FRA) a Rosicrucian school in Germany with branches in South America having the following formula of sexual conduct: Immissio Membri Virile in Vaginae sine ejaculatio seminis. This he asserts is most conducive to the economic success and prosperity of the members.

Samael Aun Weor learned this formula and applied it in the context of The Perfect Matrimony.

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The Welsh writer Norman Lewis, in his celebrated account of life in Naples in 1944, claimed that San Rocco was the patron saint of coitus reservatus: "I recommended him to drink -- as the locals did -- marsala with the yolks of eggs stirred into it, and to wear a medal of San Rocco, patron of coitus reservatus, which could be had in any religious-supplies shop."

According to the famous English writer, Aldous Huxley, who wrote Brave New World, in his last novel Island he wrote that maithuna, the Yoga of Love is "the same as what Roman Catholics mean by coitus reservatus".

Getting to the point by discussing coitus reservatus, Alan W. Watts in Nature, Man and Woman notes: "...I would like to see someone make a case for the idea that the Apostles really did hand down an inner tradition to the Church, and that through all these centuries the Church has managed to guard it from the public eye. If so, it has remained far more secret and "esoteric" than in any of the other great spiritual traditions of the world, so much so that its existence is highly doubtful..."

The famous psychologist Havelock Ellis writes: "Coitus reservatus,- in which intercourse is maintained even for very long periods, during which the woman may have orgasm several times while the man succeeds in holding back orgasm,- so far from being injurious to the woman, is probably the form of coitus which gives her the maximum gratification and relief". This shows there is a slight difference between coitus reservatus and karezza as expounded by Dr. Stockham where both husband and wife avoid the orgasmic climax of ejaculation.

The Oneida Community, founded in the XIX century by John Humphrey Noyes experimented along the lines of coitus reservatus which was then called Male Continence in a religiously Christian communist environment. The experiment lasted for about a quarter of a century and then Noyes went on to create Oneida silverware and establish the Oneida Silver Co. that grew into the giant Oneida Limited which to this day trades in Wall St. (See Ellis' book listed above, p. 553)

External Links

Samael Aun Weor The Perfect Matrimony (Audio Book)

J. William Lloyd Karezza

Alice B. Stockham Karezza, Ethics of Marriage

John Humphrey Noyes Male Continence

Reuniting: healing with sexual relationships

Healing With Sexual Energy: sex for health, relationships and spirituality

Caress: the relaxation response

Karezza Techniques

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