Ross Jeffries

Ross Jeffries (born Jeffrey Ross on September 1958) is a former comedy writer and the creator of "Speed Seduction," a set of teachings that draws from Neuro-linguistic Programming and other hypnotic techniques. Jeffries claims these methods help men understand women, particularly their motivations and psychology, in order to successfully establish sexual relations. Ross has taught at numerous seminars in locations including Los Angeles, New York and London. Ross's current version of Speed Seduction focuses on techniques of moving energy through the body and "magick". He and his supporters claim great success in changing the attitudes and thought processes of men seeking success with women.


Ross was raised under the Jewish faith in Gardena-Hawthorne, Los Angeles, CA. He had a variety of jobs, and worked at various times as insurance claims adjustor, marketing assistant, paralegal, and comedy writer. But it was the notion of Neuro-linguistic Programming, the basis of a book by Richard Bandler, that made him leave all of these careers behind to pursue a more psychological life. Jeffries has been known to take his nephews to his seminars, calling them his "pimp nephews" or his "apprentices."

Speed Seduction

Jeffries was the first of the Seduction Community to create a website, usenet newsgroup and publish user-friendly books, CDs and Videos on dating women and self-improvement. His first book, "How To Get the Women You Desire Into Bed," created a huge buzz and online communities were created to discuss and aid the development of the art of seduction . Ross has many other products, including a seduction home-study course spanning 13 audio CDs and a 107 page accompanying book, he also offers seminars.

The basis of the original Speed Seduction books and courses is that a person feels the emotions expressed in a story or a linguistical pattern. The goal is to arouse women with words, to put them in a connected or sexual state. Phonetic ambiguity (such as below me vs blow me) and anchoring are used. The concept is that by using "anchors" and "weasel phrases," these states can be anchored to oneself. From that point on, the seducer can remind a woman of these emotional states by his appearance or touch, as explained in the now outdated How to Get the Women You Desire into Bed (1992).

A student of Richard Bandler's NLP school, Jeffries was the first to apply the NLP persuasion tactics to the dating market in a structured and systematic way. Jeffries' students have included David DeAngelo, a well-known seductionist. He was featured as a pick-up mentor to Neil Strauss in Strauss' bestselling book "The Game".

His various programs include for beginners: Speed Seduction Basic Home Study Course, Unstoppable Confidence; for intermediate: Gold Walkups, Ross' One on One Metaphors, Secrets of Advanced Irresitable Arousal and Fear Into Charisma; For his advanced students he offers: Hyper Reponsive Series, Frame Control Series, and Nail Your 'Inner Game' - a product aimed at building self esteem and destroying anxiety. Ross often demonstrates these techniques in his classes, destroying a student's 'Approach Anxiety' in seconds flat.

Jeffries also sells his classic ebook for all levels Reviews of Ross Jeffries Speed Seduction Courses

Examples of Speed Seduction Theory

Ross's theory asks the user to speak some words of a sentence at a normal tone, while the parts of the sentence he wants the woman to interpret subliminally as a command are said at a lower register. An example of a Pattern would be, "I told my dog to go inside the house." The words "go inside" may be interpreted by the unconscious mind as a command. A weasel phrase would be to say something without directly violating the other. For example, "Just for the sake of me getting to know you better what would someone have to do to get you totally intrigued?"

Jeffries also uses phonetic ambiguity. Sentence example: "Standing on the hill, I could see the river twinkling below me." According to Jeffries, the words "below me" could be unconsciously interpreted as an embedded command to "blow me". Especially, if at the point those words were spoken, you spread your hands palms up with fingers pointing down at the crotch area.

As one advances through the teachings, the entire technique changes to traits like Signal Recognition, essential NLP skills and defusing the approaches of other AFCs (average frustrated chumps). In various seminars (Palo Alto '02, London '03) Jeffries suggested he is writing a new book.


Jeffries argues that his methods are completely different from the "dating framework" that is advocated by other "romance gurus". He considers the dating framework to be heavily promoted by the entertainment industry for commercial reasons and to be ineffective for bringing men and women closely together, either for sex or romance. Jeffries denies that he is a misogynist, claiming his techniques are designed to bring pleasure to both men and women through a deeper understanding of the needs of each person. Controversy has also appeared towards Jeffries's online presence, arguing with other Pickup Artist's (PUA's) such as Tyler Durden and various other members of the mASF over general technique, principles and original creation of techniques.

Film portrayals

Jeffries is rumored to be the model for Tom Cruise's character in the 1999 movie Magnolia, Frank "T.J." Mackey, a predatory "seduction guru." Cruise himself denies this, though Paul Thomas Anderson, who wrote and directed the film, stated in the magazine "Creative Screenwriting" that Jeffries was the main inspiration for the Mackey character. However, Radio Personality Tom Leykis has claimed in his radio show to be the model of Tom Cruise's character.

At the 2003 London Speed Seduction Seminar, Jeffries re-enacted Cruise's opening scene in Magnolia, complete with Richard Strauss' music as featured in the film.

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